How do I quit smoking for good?

I've been smoking for 2 years. I should have listened to the very addictive part of the equation. I tried the patch and it gave me horrible realistic nightmares. (one of the side effects) I tried will that lasted two months before I got stressed out enough to go back. I've tried tappering off but the night finds me puffing like chimney! My husband hates my smoking. Got any other ideas? The gum is not an option.